How do you define mixed signals
30 April, 2022
Mixed Signals
-Mixed signals are when a person is expressing interest in someone while simultaneously expressing a lack of interest which causes confusion to the other person.
The story goes, it was in my early teenage years when i made a shocking discovery that girls enjoy playing hard to get.
It happened that i fell for a girl at school. She too seemed to be interested too because we would always hang out after school and go home together, sometimes she would bring me lunch to school and i would do the same, but whenever i asked her to be my girlfriend she would tell me that she sees me as her older brother.
Has anyone given you any mixed Signals?, how did you deal with that?
The guy proposed and i had to turn him down, i never wanted to be his partner we were better as friends, so we parted ways😩😹😹😹
ReplyDeletehuns are crazy jerrr😭. nahana lomfana
DeleteI never got mixed emotions from anyone, or maybe i did but the fact that i hardly propose makes it hard to say.... Lets say someone gives me that and rejects my proposal, i'd simply distance myself from them, they are toxic😂
ReplyDeleteThere's this girl I know who always plays hard to get with me too, I've been trying for a while to make her my girlfriend but she always says she's not ready but whenever she's with my friend, she tells him she's ready to date🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
ReplyDeleteWell from what i was told they do this to test how serious you are as a guy
DeleteOh yeah! I have been in instances like that a couple of times. There was a guy I liked, he knew, because I always make it clear. He told me he liked me too but wouldn't date because he "fears" Heartbreak. My! 🤦🏻♀️ This was frustrating as we got along so well.
ReplyDeleteAnother one, you'd swear we're dating, up to this day we are so in love as it looks but when I talk of a relationship, he's not ready. It's been 2 years. I think it's always best to make your intentions clear and what you want.
I onced experience the same feeling of loving someone who plays hard to get but I ended up acting as her boyfriend until she catches the feeling and thats how our destination began.
ReplyDeleteI haven't experienced that but As a girl I do ofcause play hard to get sometimes, especially when I love that person😂😂
ReplyDeletedarn thats hard😪😤, why tho?😪
DeleteThey sure like being chased but it's sad and very confusing when the make themselves a target in the dark.
ReplyDeleteVery true
DeleteAs for me too, um still experiencing this horrible movie😭💔.there's this special person in my life😁whom we share almost everything, we have so many things in common.as for being in a relatioship with her i dnt know whats de matter🤔cz I've told her abt how i feel about her but up to this day i dont knw the answer to my proposal. And The only thing that she will do after telling her my feeling is to be more caring🤗and romentic😁 jst like that😩😭
ReplyDeleteThat's how these girls are
Deletehe told me he loved me and sometimes he would even call, on some days he would look at me and just carry on with his life, I accepted that we would never be one but I will forever love him🥺😭❤❤
ReplyDeletePOV - y'all are characters in shakespeare's romeo and juliet😭❤
DeleteHe tells me he loves me almost all the time, long calls, funny and stupid videos, sharing the laughter!! And yes, he's not my boyfriend.. I love him wholeheartedly and though I know it may amount to nothing, I vowed to give it my all since it makes ME happy. If it ends, I won't regret, I gave it everything I could..
Delete#WhenLoveHurts
I once dealt with someone who didn't know what they wanted 💔one day he wanted us to be together the next morning he'd tell me that what we're doing is wrong 😪I could not keep up with him so I moved on without informing him
DeleteI am sure you were devastated
DeleteIts very hurting when you know that you cabca be with the very same person make you laugh, never lets you down. It hurts in the in because that person doesn't love you and still loves that much that losing you will hurt them.
ReplyDeleteHmmk I think most people who do this thing ea mixed are people who are struggling with trust issues and insecurities 😕🤔
ReplyDelete😂I am the hard to get kinda girl,and I enjoy the game though sometimes I get to regret
ReplyDeleteHeeeee🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteGo girl
DeleteYep.. someone has given me mixed signals.. I mean we have it good then suddenly he's stops texting me
ReplyDeleteThe same happened to me. And he was a loaded one! God! Aii😪
DeleteAs for me, I love to much 🥺 and end up being insecure 🙌😫
ReplyDeleteNo one has given me mixed signals but I think changing the way you talk and treat her will give her a clear picture of what your intentions are with her and it will be up to her to show if she has the same intentions or not and if not, don't waste your time telling her how you feel because it will damage what ever relationship you guys have build
ReplyDeleteI've not experience such ,bhut I have a friend of mine who played hard to get to the current person she is with now.. she would turn the guy off and come trll me that she is playing hard to get,but in the other hand she got mutual feeling towards the guy😹😹🙌🏽
ReplyDelete😅😅I also can play hard to get,yet I know that I want you,,,I think sometimes as a girl you feel you don't want to *Spoil* things yeah!so rather keep it simple and stay as my older brother 🙈
ReplyDeleteIts not about being chased, guys put less efford and expect girls to go with with the flow
ReplyDeleteMixed signals are the worst😭I'm lucky I always manage to pull back as soon as I feel the uncertainty. It hurts but it's always better than the on-again off-again game. I love knowing they're sure about me and as soon as I sense they aren't, I walk away.
ReplyDeleteYes😂😂 whe you've been dating a guy for a little while and things seem yo be going well, the inevitable "what are we" chat starts weighing in your mind.
ReplyDeleteYou're trying to decide when to bring it up, but at the same time, wondering why he hasn't already.
It's then that you start overthinking
It's even worse if when you bring up "what are we" conversation you get a less than enthusiastic answer.
If he tells you he doesn't want to put a label on it, you start to think you have read the signals all wrong🤦♀️
"Mixed signals"🚩🚩🚩🚩
It must have hurt neh. Not knowing where you stand with a person
Deletefirst met this guy on Facebook a few months ago and we talked for approximately 6 weeks before meeting (he was away at college during this time so we couldn't meet earlier). We met, and we clicked, but I wasn't very attracted to him, it was the kind of thing where I thought I could look past it and be indifferent to it, and when he kissed me at the end of the date I was honestly pretty into him.
ReplyDeleteA few days after our first date, he was away again the entire next month doing an internship. We video called almost everyday and we really got to know each other, to the point where he was talking about us being in a relationship. Over the calls I was really into him, and when he got home after his month-long time away we saw each other again for our second date. Problem was, I was really NOT attracted to him this time and when he started making out with me at the end of it I tried to make myself like it but I was actually completely repulsed by it. I wanted to like it but I just couldn't... him and I click awesomely but I just have no interest in him like that. It's not that he's ugly, he's really not at all, I was just so not attracted to him after our second date (I don't know why my attraction to him changed so much over the last month but yeah).
Anyway, I've been away for the last 2 weeks on vacation so him and I have been talking on the phone. He seems to be really into me and keeps talking about how he wants me to be his girlfriend, and I keep trying to trick myself into liking him but I just can't seem to do it and I feel awful about it. I especially feel awful because he has confined in me a bunch of stuff he has never talked about with anyone else before and thinks he can trust me and believes I feel the same way about him that he feels about me (this is because of that month-long time when we video called everyday when I was indifferent to my lack of attraction to him and thought I could get past it). He is truly a really sweet guy, the kind of guy I could see myself being close friends with for a very long time, but I just don't want anything physical with him and I especially don't want a relationship. I don't know how to break the news to him considering he's thought I've been into him for 4+ months now when I'm just not. I don't know how to tell him that I want to just be friends especially when he is going through some really hard times with his family and school and is really into me. I don't want to hurt him and I don't want him to hate me.. I feel awful about all of this and I wish I just liked him but I don't and I can't. Don't know what to do.. obviously I can't keep leading him on but I don't know how to get out of this situation and still make him happy because I care about him a lot but not in the way he wants.
Well i think, you have to real with the guy, so that he can maybe get serious with you
Deletethat's the thing,I don't want to be more than just friends with him
DeleteI'm that playing hard to get type of a girl because I'm struggling with trust issues, but believe me that shit makes me suffer because I always lose good guys, guys I love only because I wanted him to show some effort and he just gave up.
ReplyDeleteladies love being in a friend zone because we know that when things turn into a relationship a lot is going to change that might turn friends into strangers
ReplyDeleteIt's not all about playing hard to get sometimes it is because of the label "easy target" that makes us play hard to get. There are times where we feel like damn i love this guy but then you come back to your senses i think to avoid having mixed signals you as boys should stop labeling us so as to make things more easier for both of us
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DeleteThis reminds of a friend I had back in high school😂 Okay I thought we were friends little did I know they guy loved me😂 we would hang out have lunch together. In short we did what lovers do😂.
ReplyDeleteMixed signals are not okay in fact they are bad. But well I think I was the cause, I think I gave him wrong impressions which made him end up having feels for me. I had to to turn him down when he asked me to be his girlfriend😭. Our bond was very strong so I didn't want that to change. But we all know how relationships are or even end😂. Why ruin things by dating?
Mixed signals are red flags😂
Yah I have experienced that, someone I have known so for so long since I was young acted as a brother until he tells me how he loves me...I didn't see him as a person I could date but I tried to give it a chance but it didn't work out so good because he cheated and had a baby with that chic so there was no space for me anymore yet he acted like there is....so I decided to cut him off because luckily we haven't invested in our relationship so there was nothing to lose or regret
ReplyDeleteWhat I've realized is we have been hurt in relationships to an extent that we become blind even when we meet people who really love us
ReplyDeleteSimple! I invited him to my place and I kissed him 😂😂. I was so embarrassed but it worked
ReplyDeleteIts not the matter of playing hard to get but the matter of weighing one's patience for me but sometimes we loose soul mates yaz🤒
ReplyDeleteSoo this guy approached me and asked me about a job post that he saw online. I helped him then we exchanged numbers for further assistance because I was in hurry😊. He then offered lunch as to say thank you😍, after that conversation start getting romantic💅, I thought like it's because now he is starting to like me, until one day😢, we planned to get some drinks at a far away place, then he told me that he invited his girlfriend to be with us, I died at a very same second 😭
ReplyDeleteYes I've got missed got mixed signals umpteenth times and its so much annoying....even my current partner got me some before we made things official because it all started as friends ......but i can literally deal with that hona tjena😂😂😅😅
ReplyDeleteThis remains me a guy who used to be my neighbour we were friends we used to hang out together, one day he came to me expressing his feelings i had to turn him down when he asked me to his girlfriend, we had strong bond so i didn't want that to change.
ReplyDeleteYou guys confuse being kind with flirting and a No for mixed signals or playing hard to get.
ReplyDeleteI don’t remember someone giving me mixed signals...but funny enough I always give people mixed signals but unintentionally😂
ReplyDeleteYou guys like confusing being nice and mixed signals 🙌
ReplyDeleteI mostly find that I'm the one who gives out mixed signals.
ReplyDeleteI'm always the one giving out mixed signals
ReplyDeleteI have experienced it a couples of times
ReplyDeleteAs soon as i see that someone is giving me mixed signals i just cut it
ReplyDeleteNope, i have not, i just cut it before we reach that
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